It is so easy in management to fall into the pit fall of seeking to be the friend or colleague over being the manager.
Many new-be managers are so focused on being “liked” (or avoiding being disliked) that they forget that the job of a manager is ultimately to lead a team of people towards a goal. Indeed many managers seeking to be “liked” are doing so not in the interest of the team or overall objectives but rather to cover up their own insecurities they have about their ability to lead. Leaders who seek “being liked” imbearably become side-tracked onto making decisions not in the interest of the team (group) of people but rather into feeding their own need to feel accepted by outspoken individuals on that team. Continue reading